A Little Friendly Advice
Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve been thinking about the sorts of things people say and I’ve come to a conclusion…
Most of us are pretty judgmental
Does it matter what the kid sitting behind you is wearing? What is that thought doing to help you? If you share your opinion, some may agree with you, maybe even laugh a little… but that doesn’t change the fact that you’re being an ass
Be honest.. it’s easier to make fun of someone than to stick up for them
Something I’ve come to realize though, is that people with a lot of friends aren’t necessarily nice people
Good people aren’t always nice either. The endless talk about “real” and “fake”, two faced… people are complex and hard to figure out. Our multifaceted personalities are what make us who we are. You can’t put someone in a single category and write them off.
Realize that sometimes being kind means hurting someone’s feelings, being fair doesn’t always mean giving someone what they want, and being selfish isn’t always wrong.
The best thing and the only thing that is important is respect. If you respect your peers, you will be good to them. Sometimes people won’t understand when you’re trying to help them, sometimes they will try to condemn you for doing what is right… don’t get angry with them. Be the best you, and don’t expect anything from anyone else. If you do, you’ll be disappointed.
Try to pass on kindness. Open a door for someone or move seats on the bus so someone else can sit down. Smile a lot. Life is what you make it.
addicted to this song
David Ryan Harris
"For You"
Such a great song
After the End
In life, you meet people worth knowing, and you meet people not worth knowing at all, but all these people have an affect on you
It’s hard to know exactly when to get up and walk away, especially when you feel like that is the worst thing you could possibly do.
At what point is it right to leave something that you think you can’t possibly live without?
No one can tell you how to feel, or what to do with your life. You will never truly know yourself if you let others dictate your choices. If you want something, go get it. The time you spend trying to figure out if it was worth it is time wasted. You can’t go back and change mistakes you made, they’re all memories and a part of who you are.
Life isn’t about who you’re dating, who your friends are, or what grades you get. It’s about who you loved, the experiences you shared, and the things you learned.
When it’s time to let go, let go. If you hold on to something that is slipping away, you’ll be left with nothing but a broken heart.
In the wise words of Adele, one of my favourite artists, Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead.
A Little Morning Rant
There is something to be said for people who forgive. It takes a vast amount of understanding to accept someone else’s apology for a matter you don’t agree with yourself.
I spend a lot of time trying to decipher the other side - the side I can’t see, don’t comprehend, that angers me..
What I find rather strange, is that not all people attempt to “see both sides”
After an altercation, I often think to myself, what was it I did to upset that person? Because even if they were being a douche bag, most people don’t scream at you for no reason.
The thing is, if they don’t attempt to understand where you’re coming from, it’s hard to have any respect for them. How can you go through life thinking you’re always right? Or better yet, that you deserve respect and appreciation by doing nothing?
I was reminded of this the other day at work. I went above and beyond the standards, or what any of my other coworkers would do, to help a customer. I spent approximately 2 hours with her installing software on her new computer, a service my workplace does not offer, and she was not even grateful. The store was about to close, I was about to miss my bus, and the customer was under the impression that she merely deserved the service and that I was under the obligation to stay until she saw fit.
I do recognize that as a sales person, I am required to help the customer in every way possible. Also, the customer is always right, and therefore I must put aside my objections and assist until they are satisfied.
THAT BEING SAID: I certainly don’t think it’s appropriate behavior to treat people as if they are your servants. Regardless of how much you think you deserve it. You don’t deign to be in the presence of another person. In the world we live in today, you are not entitled to anything but shelter, food, water, and security of a person. If you have that, lucky you. Stop being so vain already.
A Lie is a Lie, No Matter How Small
I know I know, it’s been a really long time. I also realize saying I’ve been busy is a lame cop-out, but hey, I’ve been really busy. I had one of those moments where my life did a complete 180, and I was left standing there thinking “how the hell did I let things get this bad?”
These were the two things I came up with:
1. I didn’t listen to my gut
2. I put trust in those that could not be trusted
Throughout my life, I’ve given the people I’ve met a scorecard (an imaginary one, of course). They began with 100%, which would deduct if anything happened. If I lost trust in them, they never got it back. It was a pretty good system when the worst thing a friend could do was steal your favourite crayon. I never liked the people I met that I had to win over. I was a truthful person, and I didn’t want to prove that. So, to be nice, everyone started out with my trust.
What I’m going to say here may shock you, but, that was a really, really, really, really (x1000) bad idea.
It took a mistake I couldn’t fix for me to learn that I have to be very careful who I say things to. I also have to be honest myself, and sometimes telling white lies to one person to protect their feelings, but telling another the truth is just as bad. Especially when the person you told the white lies to finds out that they were, well, lies.
All in all, it was a huge life lesson. It hurts to think that I can’t fix what’s been broken, and that sorry doesn’t cut it. The best I can do is to be better myself. No matter how kind a person may seem (and I still like to think that everyone is, underneath it all), trust is something that can’t be taken lightly. It takes respect to keep a person’s trust, and respect is earned.
It all ties in to gossip, rumours, and just plain old deceit. It’s hurtful, and it doesn’t do anybody any good (except it makes for great movies). I’m not saying I’m perfectly honest all of the time. If I was, the situation I got myself into would not have happened. Being sorry doesn’t heal, it’s like a band-aid - the cut is still there underneath… but changing yourself makes sure the cut doesn’t get any deeper. You can’t repair the damage when it’s too far gone to collect the pieces. Sometimes things just can’t be fixed, and accepting that is the hardest part.
John Mayer
"Slow Dancing In a Burning Room"
I never get tired of John Mayer
I Got Your Back
It’s not everyday you meet someone worth knowing. Most of the time people are just acquaintances, fair weather friends. You never really get to know the person that’s underneath the skin, what they really think. Sometimes though, you know someone so well you finish their sentences and know what they’re thinking. The scariest part of all of that is, they know you that well too. You can’t hide your emotions from them, they know what you’re feeling, they know what you’re thinking, and they know what you mean without you having to say it.
These few people have a great impact on your life, because you really take to heart the things that they say, their opinions matter to you. It’s these people that are with you all your life, and even if you lose touch, their still there in your memories. As the years pass, I slowly forget the names of the kids in my classes, or the once ‘terrifying bully’ from 3rd grade. The people that really leave an imprint on your heart aren’t the ones that make you feel inferior, but the ones that bring you up. The ones that were there at your door when a family crisis happens, or the one that calls you on a rainy night for a movie.
When you’re at the lowest of the low, they’re there for you, holding your hand and drying your tears. They’re also there when you’re at your best, congratulating you and praising your success. These people are the greatest people you may ever know. So cherish them, they are the world.
I myself have been lucky to have a few of these people in my life. I have excellent friends and an incredible boyfriend, who are always there when I need them. I have to remember to thank them sometimes for all that they do ;) because honestly, I couldn’t be without them.
NIGHTNIGHT by DEDDY
